The Story of the Old Guitar Pick
There is a world-renowned guitarist named Ethan Wells. Whenever he goes on stage, he always keeps one worn, cracked guitar pick in his pocket. To anyone else, it is just an old piece of plastic, but to him, it is the most precious thing in the world.
When Ethan was fifteen, he lived alone with his father in a small town. His father worked two jobs to buy him his first guitar, and on the day of Ethan’s first competition, when his hands were shaking with nerves, his father handed him an old pick and said, “When you are scared, hold this. Remember that you already have everything you need.”
Ethan won first place that day. Two months later, his father passed away in an accident. From that moment on, Ethan never let go of that pick. It was no longer just an accessory for an instrument. It became a bridge to his happiest moment and a symbol of his father’s presence.
Today, he is a global star worth hundreds of millions, yet that worn-out pick is still always with him. If someone else saw it, they might say, “That is just trash you should throw away.”
The same object can be meaningless to one person and the most precious thing in the world to someone else.
People Don’t Judge Life Objectively
As this story shows, people do not see the world through objective value alone. We interpret everything through our own memories and emotions. Reunior’s concept of PRV (Perceived Relational Value) begins here.
The meaning and weight of a relationship change completely depending on the value one person perceives in the other. That is why the same action can feel deeply touching to one person yet feel overwhelming or burdensome to someone else.
In the end, the essence of a relationship is not the situation itself, but the perception of it. When perception changes, the temperature of the relationship changes with it.
When People Feel Drawn to Someone
The human brain is wired to feel pulled toward people who seem to hold higher value than oneself. That value is not defined by appearance or money alone.
It includes self-control, emotional steadiness, trustworthiness, and stability. The feeling of love tends to emerge when someone perceives the other person’s value as equal to or higher than their own.
The Principle Behind Raising PRV
Raising PRV is not about trying to look good or impress someone on the surface. It is about triggering an unconscious feeling of, “This person might be more valuable than I am.”
Pleading or clinging after a breakup almost always lowers PRV. The other person’s mind reacts like this: 'She's anxious about losing me.' He thinks, ‘She’s below me.’ As a result, the attraction fades and the sense of magnetism disappears.
When you stay calm and focus on your own life instead, their unconscious often shifts in the opposite direction: “Why are they so composed? Did I lose something bigger than I realized?” That is how PRV moves.
Reactive Orientation vs Empowered Orientation
Reunior categorizes PRV states within relationships into two orientations.
Reactive Orientation is a state where you are controlled by the other person’s reactions and by your own emotions. Examples include constant messaging, excessive apologies, emotional outbursts, and making decisions based on the other person.
Empowered Orientation is a state where you act from principle rather than emotion—calm, self-led, and steady. It includes measured responses, maintaining self-respect, and keeping your own rhythm instead of being pulled around.
Empowered Orientation is not coldness or indifference. It is steadiness grounded in trust, and that steadiness is the core of real value.
The Trap of False Empowerment Orientation
People sometimes say, “Shouldn’t I just act cold and dump them first?” or “If I treat them harshly, won’t I look more valuable?”
This is a misunderstanding. Such behavior is what Reunior calls False Empowerment Orientation—a surface-level toughness that looks strong but quietly breaks trust. PRV may spike for a moment, but relationships built without trust do not last.
The real goal is not simply to look high value. It is to become someone who feels both high in value and emotionally safe at the same time.
An Example of Secure Empowered Orientation
People who stabilize and restore relationships well do not let their emotions drag them around. When they have a point to make, they say it clearly. When the other person reflects or apologizes, they close it with a small, quiet smile.
They are not trying to win. They are trying to keep balance. This is Secure Empowered Orientation. In the other person’s unconscious, it builds both trust and attraction at the same time.
Three Things to Remember in a Relationship Crisis
First, PRV is about perception, not raw emotion. Act in the direction where your value is seen as higher in the other person’s eyes.
Second, Empowered Orientation is self-led, not cold. It is the combination of principle and calm steadiness, not sharpness or rudeness.
Third, Secure Empowered Orientation is the ultimate goal. It is the balanced state where PRV and trust rise together instead of pulling against each other.
Conclusion — The Power That Makes Someone Feel Your Value
Raising PRV in a breakup is not about manipulating the other person. It is about understanding how human perception works and taking an honest look at yourself in that light.
The human brain naturally gravitates toward what feels valuable. When you stand firmly in that direction, sooner or later their attention turns back toward you.
That is not a trick. It is simply how emotion and perception are wired to move.
